What is my approach?

You may have found out that just talking about a problem has not resolved it. The difficulties that people come to enlist my help with have often eluded their best intentions to shift.

Looking back

Retracing the history of the problem’s good for finding out more about the problem and it may bring insight. It may also pinpoint the origins of problems. Looking back is like perusing the chartered territory. In some respects it is akin to standing at the rear of the ship and watching the wake, as such we can see the consequences of past limitation.

If we were spend too much time looking back then who is steering the ship? Who is making the day to day decisions of how to live a life that works well? Who is considering the uncharted territory, the direction of travel?

Looking forward

Research into effectiveness of therapy has shown two things and these two things counted irrespective of the theory practised by the therapist.

Firstly a minority of people go to a therapist with an intention to engage in a long drawn out therapy. People generally go because they have a difficulty which is stopping them get on with life. They would simply like the difficulty to stop.

Secondly no matter what the particular theory of the therapist, insight into the problem doesn’t by itself create change. The clients who fared best where the ones who quite quickly got to the point of knowing what they actually wanted. Where they actually wanted to go.

This is not as obvious as it can often seem. There is a lot of therapy out there that is based on the assumption of the value of looking back and gaining insight. It is very easy for us to know what we don’t want or what we want ‘rid off’ when we are having a hard time. Often we need help to bring into our attention how life will actually be different when the problem is resolved.

Why is this so important?

Because knowing what life will be like without the problem creates a goal us to aim for. Will reveal to us the overriding direction to move in and the steps along the way. Moving to a state of optimum health – physical, emotional or psychological is invariable a series of small but significant changes.

What is the best way?

The question is what is the quickest way to get to live without the problem?

I believe that it is three fold:

  1. Provide an environment that is attuned to self understanding
  2. Begin to formulate as clearly as possible what the successful outcome to therapy will be
  3. Use the part on the brain that can sidestep past limitations and facilitate change – hypnotic trance or guided visualisation